"Wasta" & Da Struggle

When people have money, power tends to get into their heads. In many Arab nations, this is called having "wasta" - I'll cry if I want to and get away with anything card. Having wasta is equivalent to having unlimited privilege, influence, and power. Supposedly, the smaller the number or license plate on a car in Abu Dhabi, the more power or wasta that person has, meaning "I am #1 so don't mess with me". (Don't worry, I won't. I'm not that stupid.)

(Btw the #1 plate went for $14.3 million in an auction.)

                                       

One of my biggest concerns with living in Abu Dhabi is my race and gender and how I will be treated there because of who I am. Questions that I have asked myself include: Am I prepared to deal with being treated like a second-class citizen or a "lesser" of sorts if it happens? Am I ready to bite my tongue and hold back my American tendencies if injustices occur? Am I going to let people with wasta waste me or will I dust things off my shoulders? Can I roll with the punches? 

Don't get me wrong, I am determined to keep an open-mind so I can enjoy my experience exploring and learning about a new culture while providing a valuable service to an exciting, young country; the UAE is literally only 42 years old! However, I don't think it is wrong of me to be cautious. After all I am an unmarried, female traveling alone and working in a relatively conservative, male-dominate society, no matter how progressive it is trying to be. Many have said that men are shamelessly flirtatious over there, especially toward unmarried women. As a result I do not want to stand out or attract attention in any way, shape, or form if I can help it. I will blend in (ninja style) as much as possible - dress conservatively and be inconspicuous in order to respect their culture on the one hand and protect myself on the other.

I was struggling to find loose-fitting, shoulder-to-toe type clothes that still manage to be breathable for Abu Dhabi's sweltering weather. No, I don't plan on buying a department store worth of clothing to bring with me to AD, especially since there's a two, 50 lbs. luggage limit I can check in w/o extra charge, but I do need at least a few outfits that can hold me over when I first arrive so I can assess my environment and then buy some more appropriate dresses, pants, and shirts at one of its fine malls. People say that 100% cotton is best to fend off the killer heat while having enough coverage & looking respectable. After some research and wandering through malls, I bought some button up shirts from GAP to pair with jeans, khakis, or capris. Then I scored some long, black, maxi dresses that go all the way down to my ankles! Could not be happier when I found them because now I can mix and match different tops and scarves (if necessary) to go over them and wear for a variety of occasions. Yes, I know, I'm a genius. 

Left: Casual - For "western" establishments like hotels & at the beach

Right: Professional - For work & other more conservative environments

Other ways to cover up!

Button up shirts from GAP

These clothes will have to make do until I look like...

...which isn't so bad! In fact it's quite beautiful. 

I swear I'm not neurotic or paranoid, though, I know I can have these tendencies at times. I am simply trying to be a respectful, well-informed expat who's done her research. I will find out just how right or wrong I am and how accurate or inaccurate my assumptions and information are when I get there, and actually that's kind of exciting! The unknown and the mystery of it all both frighten and intrigue me. 

To Be Honest (TBH) #1

Many people have told me that I wear my emotion on my face. In fact Dave (my bf and BFF of 5 years come this December) have given names to some of these infamous faces I tend to display from time to time, most notably "sad face" (when I don't get what I want or when I'm disappointed about something), "duck face" (NOT the one where an individual puckers up her lips for Facebook profile pictures, but full on ducky-like lips) - when I'm thinking about something and it bothers me or any other slight annoyances, "little girl face" occurs when I'm really excited about something that I simply cannot contain myself, and "happy face" - well when I'm truly happy. 

As someone who doesn't hide her feelings well, naturally I'm a pretty bad liar. If I really try, though, I guess I can get away with it from time to time. I'm usually good at pretending I'm having a great day when I'm actually not, especially at a workplace. To me maintaining professionalism and relationships with others are of utmost importance. Plus, I'm the type of person who doesn't like to use someone else as scapegoat for my own problems. There's simply no need to be snappy toward others when they've done nothing to you. I usually mind my own business and keep things to myself. With that being said I'm also difficult to get to know because unless you go out of your way to get to know me I'll probably smile at you, have polite conversations, and continue on my day. I find it very hard to open up to people. 

With this blog, I'm hoping to be as honest and as real as possible, so it can be a part of my growth. I think I may have come off to family and friends as this fearless and adventurous woman about to go on this incredible journey to the mysterious Middle East with nothing but high hopes, excitement, and dreams. 

This is indeed a part of the truth and reality. I mean how can I immerse myself in and learn about a new culture without a positive attitude and a healthy dose of enthusiasm? But this adventure also comes with a good amount of fear, doubt, sadness, and anxiety. Will I adjust well to Abu Dhabi? Will my race and gender affect the way that I will be treated there? Will I like my placement? What am I going to do if they put me out in Al Gharbia, away from the city? What if I feel extremely homesick? etc, etc. I'm also worried about a lot of things, beginning with preparations for departure. Many days I feel like I have so much to do but don't know where to begin or how to begin, almost crippling to the point that I just don't do anything. Alas, I can't just do nothing so I set little goals for myself to accomplish each day - make 10 colored copies of my passport to bring with me, print out the application for an international driving permit and take it to AAA, etc. 

All in all it's an anxious time for me right now - so much unknown (departure date), so much to do (sell, pack, move, or donate personal belongings big & small), and so little time. Wish me luck, send positive energy my way, and pray for me as well. 

Frequently Asked Questions by Interviewers

I cannot guarantee anything but from my experience I noticed that they tended to ask...

1. Tell me a little bit about yourself - This does NOT give you free reign to start babbling about yourself, your pets, favorite colors...your interviewer wants to know about the PROFESSIONAL you, meaning your educational background, professional experiences, and (okay) a little about your personality aka your strengths.

2. Why do you want to teach abroad? -OR- Why do you want to teach in Abu Dhabi? - Honestly, why do you want to teach abroad? It's important that you're seriously asking yourself this question. If your reason is to run away from your problems, then this is not for you. If intrigue and adventure are knocking on your door, if you love learning about new cultures and seeing the world, if you enjoy educating or helping others, or if teaching is your passion, then you should definitely look into this opportunity. As for why Abu Dhabi, you should probably say something along the lines of wanting to be a part of the educational reform efforts over there and help realize the country's goals for a bright future. 

3. What is your classroom management style? - Consistency and Calmness

4. What would I see if I came into your classroom? - High-engagement, creativity, academic rigor, differentiation, stations, interactive activities, etc. 

5. What are three words that others would use to describe you? - Flexible or adaptable, _____________, and ______________.

6. What strategy or strategies would you use to teach English Language Learners? - Use a lot of visuals and hand gestures, explain things in context, allow plenty of time for practice to reach proficiency & mastery, etc.

7. Tell me about a lesson that you did that was highly-effective or engaging or interactive. (followed by) Tell me how you differentiated that lesson or instructional activities or assessments.  

8. Tell me about a difficult situation that you experienced - First of all, your answer or situation has got to be related to education. Secondly, not only should you explain about the difficult situation but also how you handled it effectively and appropriately! This is the trick. They want to see if you're a problem-solver!

No matter what your interviewer(s) asks you, give clear and concise answers that are supported by relevant examples. Don't ramble - it gives off a nervous or "I'm inexperienced" vibe. They like people who will be flexible even in the most unexpected, frustrating situations AND positive attitude AND I will make it work no matter what it takes attitude. Finally, smile during your interview because it'll affect your tone and body language. Be confident and let your experience speak for itself.